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I have used this positive approach for years, and it fosters the ability for a couple of kids to compromise and negotiate a fair result to their "battle". When a squabble occurs, sit both children down next to each other, together on the couch or in two chairs facing each other. I explain that they cannot get up until they have arrived at an agreeable solution to their problem. You may need to arbitrate initially. Then back off and let them problem-solve their problem. If they can not come up with a solution, suggest some possible ideas for them. Their negotiation skills will improve with time, and you have the added bonus of not having quite so much tattling.